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- “Do a self-assessment. Is the feedback accurate? If not, is some of it right. If possible, try to find an objective measurement. Be honest with yourself. The goal is progress, not perfection.
- If you’re not sure the feedback is accurate, find someone you trust and ask them to provide a second opinion.
- Consider where the person is coming from, their motivation, and their emotional state. Senders can have issues. An angry person may lash out, a jealous person may say negative things, etc.
- Be kind to yourself. We are all human beings. Of course, when we read or hear something about ourselves or others we care about, we will be hurt. This is normal, but try to put it in perspective and look at it as an opportunity to practice forgiveness, self-care, and hopefully the pursuit of personal growth (p. 54-55).”
From: Studer,Q. (2020). The busy leader’s handbook: how to lead people and places that thrive. Hoboken, NJ: Wiley and Sons.
- Run with a star crowd
- Bloom where they’ve been planted
- Track record of success
- Respected by colleagues (p.49-50).”
From: Throness, T. (2017). The power of people skills: how to eliminate 90% of your hr problems and dramatically increase team and company morale and performance. Wayne, NJ: Career Press.
“Growing your character is about having the courage to expand your personal comfort zone within yourself. Staying in our comfort zone where we feel safe, secure, and in control can in fact be the deception of living in self-limiting fear and ego-driven pride. In nearly every aspect of life it takes character for you to be your best self.
Interestingly, when we achieve more in life, it presents us with the opportunity to grow or stay at the edge of our comfort zone. For example, you do well at work and you get a promotion opportunity. Immediately you can experience fear of failure, fear of what others may think of you, questioning whether you can do the job, even feeling you will have to use a fake-it-until-I-make-it strategy. Like it or not, growing character takes courage to face our fears and not mask them with ego-driven pride or hide from them. Developing ourselves means seeing this as the courageous zone – to learn and grow (p. 125-132)."
From: Klemich, S. & Klemich, M. (2020). Above the line: living and leading with heart. New York: Harper Business
“Honesty – Self-Righteousness + Vulnerability = Authenticity
By noticing our own phony tendencies, challenging ourselves to be honest, being self-aware enough to remove our self-righteousness, and having the courage to be vulnerable – we’re able to truly authentic.
Understanding the Authenticity Equation and practicing it with ourselves, at work, and in life allows us to show up and connect with others in a real way. It’s not easy, and it takes significant self-awareness and courage, but when we do this it’s both liberating for us and inspiring for those around us. At the core, bringing our whole selves to work is based on our ability to be authentic. And, being authentic has a profound impact on how we connect with others and build relationships, as well as how we engage in our work and produce results (p. 72-73).”
Robbins, M. (2018). Bring your whole self to work: how vulnerability unlocks creativity, connection, and performance. Carlsbad, NM: Hay House, Inc.