Suggestions to Help You Move Past Taking Feedback Personally

1. “Do a self-assessment. Is the feedback accurate? If not, is some of it right. If possible, try to find an objective measurement. Be honest with yourself. The goal is progress, not perfection.
2. If you’re not sure the feedback is accurate, find someone you trust and ask them to provide a second opinion.
3. Consider where the person is coming from, their motivation, and their emotional state. Senders can have issues. An angry person may lash out, a jealous person may say negative things, etc.
4. Be kind to yourself. We are all human beings. Of course, when we read or hear something about ourselves or others we care about, we will be hurt. This is normal, but try to put it in perspective and look at it as an opportunity to practice forgiveness, self-care, and hopefully the pursuit of personal growth (p. 54-55).”

From: Studer,Q. (2020). The busy leader’s handbook: how to lead people and places that thrive. Hoboken, NJ: Wiley and Sons.