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“What I mean by Star is connecting to your true self and living your life to the fullest. For one person, that might mean becoming an amazingly inspirational second-grade teacher. For another, it might mean being an exceptionally gentle and popular dentist.
As long as you are being true to yourself, it doesn’t matter what career you star in. Nor is it important whether the stage you choose is for a relatively small audience or for millions. What counts most is that you pursue what’s right for you, and you consistently give 100 percent of yourself to achieve the best performance.
If you’re great about what you do, recognition will follow. And while being recognized as a Star might not be your goal, your example will inspire others to follow their life’s path – which should be worth any temporary discomfort you experience from your celebrity (p. 135).
How do you know if you are living your life’s path?
What is one thing you can commit to inspire others to follow their life’s path?
From: Olsher, S. (2013). What is your what?: discover the one amazing thing you were born to do. Hoboken, NJ: Wiley & Sons
2. Ability to trust
3. Ability to use imagery
4. Ability to identify blocks when they occur
5. Recognizing the importance of adversity (p. 7)
What additional characteristics of Exceptional Coaches can you add to this list?
What was the best advice you have received from a coach?
From: Jensen, P. (2012). The winning factor. New York: AMACom.
Model the Way
- Clarify values by finding your vice and affirming shared values.
- Set the example by aligning actions with shared values.
Inspire a Shared Vision
- Envision the future by imagining exciting and enabling possibilities.
- Enlist others in a common vision by appealing to shared aspirations.
Challenge the Process
- Search for opportunities by seizing the initiative and looking outward for innovation.
- Experiment and take risks by constantly generating small wins and learning from experience.
Enable Others to Act
- Foster collaboration by building trust and facilitating relationships.
- Strengthen others by increasing self-determination and developing competence.
Encourage the Heart
- Recognize contributions by showing appreciation for individual excellence.
Celebrate the values and victories by creating a spirit of community. (p. 29)
How do you demonstrate the five practices of exemplary leadership?
What is one of the ten leadership commitments that you will practice this week?
From: Kouzes, J. and Posner, B. (2012) The leadership challenge: how to make extraordinary things happen in organizations. John Wiley and Sons, Hoboken, NJ.
“Our workplaces are full of human “doings,” not human “ beings.” So says Mitch Ditkoff, the man who spends his days trying to humanize corporate work environments.
“Most people tamp down their real selves when they go to work. However, if you want to bring your ‘A’ game you have to bring your real self to work each day. That’s the only way the best of your natural creativity will emerge.”
Human beings are thoughtful, inspiring, compassionate and creative, so why don’t we bring this into the workplace?
How are you going to bring your ‘A’ game to work each day?
Why do you think that people feel the need to tone down who they are, rather than bring their authentic self to work?
From: Ades, E. (2013). The positivity handbook
- Be able to build AWARENESS.
- Be 100% RESPONSIBLE.
- IDENTIFY the purpose and value in every experience.
- ENGAGE! People are so much bigger and greater than they appear.
How do you demonstrate positive leadership?
What are some ideas to engage with others?
From: Ades, E. (2013). The positivity handbook
One evening, an old Cherokee told his grandson about a conflict that goes on inside people. He said, “My son, the battle is between two wolves within is all. One is evil. It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, worry, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority and ego. The other one is Good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, wisdom, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth compassion and faith.”
The grandson thought this for a minute and then asked his grandfather, “Which wolf wins? The old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed.” (p. 49)
How are you going to make sure the “good wolf” wins in your life?
Senn, L. (2013). Up the mood elevator.
Pick ONE of these and practice the same one each day for the next 21 days.
- Gratitude – Practice gratitude. Make a list three times a day of what you are grateful for and why.
- Journaling – Spend two minutes writing about a meaningful moment, with details, to relieve the moment.
- Fun Fifteen – Spend fifteen minutes daily in a mindful exercise you enjoy.
- Random Acts of Kindness – Start each day with one positive email written to someone in your network. Praise them.
- Smile – Change one positive nonverbal behavior. Connect deeply with the person you’re smiling at.
- Which happiness habit are you going to practice? Why?
- What other habits of happiness do you practice?
Source: Ades, E. (2013). The positivity handbook
“Our natural instinct when someone questions what we’re doing is to defend our position. When someone appears to completely ignore rules we get even more irate. But in doing so we miss the point: why is this person being challenging?
Definition of Maverick: One who refuses to abide by the dictates of his group: a dissenter! So says the Readers Digest so it must be true. But Mavericks should not be classed as trouble makers but rather as a valuable asset that can help your business become more robust and exciting.
· How do you handle mavericks?
· What are some ways that we can find out why she/he is being challenging?
· How can we value these dissenters to help our organizations be more robust?
Source:Smithson, D. (2014). What managers don’t know: how to be a better manager, leader, and entrepreneur? Theinformbook.com
- Manage for the best and not the worst.
- Don’t engage in police work.
- Be honest.
- Trust everyone.
- Let your first response also be the caring response.
- Care about yourself too. (Ray Ferch & Spears, 2011, p.131-132)
How can you utilize these guidelines into your life?
What other guidelines would you add to this list?
From: Ray Ferch, S. & Spears, L.C. eds. (2011). The spirit of servant-leadership. Mahwah, NJ: Paulist Press.
“Many people think that Einstein was just a simple scientist who went about formulating the laws that govern the Universe, but he was so much more than that.
Apart from being the man who had the greatest single impact on the advancement of our understanding of the laws that govern the physical universe, Einstein was also a philosopher king! Following are some of his musings (ESP), along with how they can relate to your business.
ESP 1: ‘The search for truth is more precious than its possession.’ This of course links back into the idea that you should never stop learning, asking questions so that you can learn.
ES2: ‘Imagination is more important that knowledge.’ This ESP is one of those ideas that has no direct application, but is such a powerful belief to install within your psyche; it can influence everything you do.
ESP 3: ‘No amount of experimentation can ever prove me right; a single experiment can prove me wrong.’ In science, nothing is ever 100% true. Think about that axiom. True science merely posits a theorem that should be successful tested and validated by other independent scientists, raises up a ranking to being a theory. This relates to the ideas of leadership. A leader is often only ever as good as his or her last successful decision.
ESP 4: ‘Most people say that intellect that makes a great scientist. They are wrong: it is character.’ Apart from having a brain the size of a planet, Einstein was a man of constant inquisition, determination and almost child-like playfulness. So whilst you are getting your business qualifications, do so without sacrificing your social and thinking skills. If you are lacking in some areas, then go outside your comfort zone and learn how to gain those skills.
ESP 5: ‘It’s not that I’m so smart, it’s just that I stay with problems longer.’ Einstein was an amazingly humble man, but this typical self-effacing statement reveals much of the secret of his success. He simply refused to give up. In everything he did, Einstein took the approach of an outstanding man who wanted to achieve outstanding things.
ESP 6: ‘You learn the rules of the game. And then you have to play better than anyone else.’ If you want to become a success you have to first get into the game, and to do that you have to understand what the rules are. Once you’ve got that locked down, you have to practice and compete constantly – and if necessary, push for a change in the rules!!!
ESP 7: ‘Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new.’ I have made (and continue to make) mistakes, ranging from minor inconveniences to absolute oh my lord pass me on a gun now! But I never stop trying because I have a very simple philosophy: I never fail, so long as I learn something new (even, as I said, if that something new is a mistake– I won’t ever do that again.
ESP 8: ‘To stimulate creativity one must develop childlike inclination for play and childlike desire for recognition.’ My outlook on life is simple, I want to experience everything I can before I get to the final destination.
ESP 9: ‘Great ideas often receive violent opposition from mediocre minds.’ It is said that we go through three stages of development. First it is met with derision. Then it is confronted with hostility and aggression. Finally, it is accepted as playfully self-evident. This is especially true when your great idea is a challenge to the established way of doing things, or contrary to the idea of the one who sits above you (p. 211-291).”
- Which of these ESP principles had the biggest impact on you?
- What are some ways you can integrate these principles into your work life?
Smithson, D. (2014). What managers don’t know: how to be a better manager, leader, and entrepreneur? Theinformbook.com