Equity-Based Dialogue for the Win!
The Game of Dialogue and How it Is Won
Why Are We in This Dialogue?
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Self-Candor Exercise
Happy New Year! Take a few moments to reflect on the questions posed below. You have the opportunity to change your life and the impact you have on others.
Strategies for Effective Dialogue
Let's start by defining the term. Dialogue: “A discussion between representatives of parties to a conflict that is aimed at resolution” [1]
Maybe we disagree about dinner, how to tie our shoes, or whether the sky is even blue! Regardless of the strife, my mother always remedied any difficult situation among my siblings by urging us to simply “work it out”.
Conflict Resolution & Dialogue
The First Steps
So, you’re in a conflict? Is that okay? YES! Because conflict is the precursor of resolution.
Relationship Building as A Behavior Exhibited by Effective Mentors
Effective mentors are not passive relationship builders, but rather make mentee relationship building an explicit priority. Our best mentors are servant leaders in the way that performance, or occupational objectives, are second to building a legitimate connection with the mentee. [1] A mentor of mine, Minister Aaron from the South Side of Columbus, builds a relationship with me as we spend an equivalent amount of time talking about my personal and career interests. Min.
What Does a Mentor Relationship Look Like?
Simply put, mentorship occurs when someone of greater experience intentionally provides direction to a less experienced member of their profession or vocation. A mentor should not be mistaken for a coach as mentorship typically involves a relationship focusing on maximizing mentee career potential overall, wheras coaching focuses on a particular talent or skill. Moreover, the mentor-mentee relationship is typically long-term consisting of a series of dialogues, not just two to three brief interactions.
What is a Mentor?
Who comes to mind when you think about a mentor? A Parent? A coach? A teacher? Perhaps, a friend? Odds are, you’ve identified someone in your life that has given you seasoned guidance in a field you weren’t as experienced in. Personally, I have multiple mentors for the various facets of my life including both professional and personal endeavors. For example, Mrs.
Coaches who Connect
- “Provides frequent feedback. Employees (especially younger ones) live in a world where most feedback is instantaneous. They expect it and will wilt and underperform without it.
- Generates opportunities for reality advice. We all have blind spots – weaknesses that we don’t see in ourselves – and reality advice helps your employees to grow in self-awareness.
- Offers encouragement. Strong leaders often forget to praise and encourage those who report to them. Coach and connect provides an opportunity to encourage your team.
Active Listening
“Paradoxically, in our age of constant communication, the raw material of conversation has actually disappeared: listening. Genuine, real listening is a rare commodity and a great gift, because you are giving to the person you are listening to your most valuable asset: your attention.
Here are a few suggestions of how to do it right, based on the communication technique ‘active listening’ devised by Carl Rogers and Richard Farson in 1957.
The Heart of the Matter is Always a Matter of the Heart
“We talk about the heart every day. It’s part of our natural vocabulary. For thousands of years, we have spoken of it as more than just a pump. But have you ever really thought about what it means? When we say somebody spoke from the heart, it means they spoke with meaning, insight, and sincerity. Or that the deeper reality of each of us is reflected when we’re following our heart.
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